5 Reasons Why He Won't Commit

Getting married is at the top of the priority list of most women of a certain age. For men, getting married doesn't fall at the top of their priority list in most cases. It's true that both men and women want to settle down, raise a family, and take family vacations. Someday. How does marriage fit into the scheme of things for men - what are his intentions and when will he be ready to commit?

" Someday is not a day of the week." Author Unknown

1. He gave you a ring but won't set the date ~ He may have asked you to marry him, but he never truly intended to make the commitment. We can be so pushy when it comes to marriage but men aren't always as positive as we are about tying the knot. When you receive a ring you naturally assume that the wedding bells are getting ready to chime. Sometimes, when a man gives a ring he is biding his time, he thinks the ring will keep you around until he makes up his mind. Keep a vigilant eye open to the possibility that you may have to move on after coming to the realization that he never will commit to you. If that happens, let everyone know you are available.

There is a guy out there who's just right for you and he's waiting to marry you. This may not be him.

2. Will it ever be the right time? ~ You love him, you want to share your life with him forever, but is he procrastinating about getting married or is there another reason it's not the right time. In the movie Mystic Pizza, the guy wanted to get married but the girl felt she wasn't ready - it drove him crazy. He came to the point of calling off the relationship because she wanted him sexually but not emotionally and he was hurt by her denial.

If you're guy isn't putting on the pressure to marry him, then he probably doesn't want to marry you and there never will be a right time.

3. He keeps you away from his family ~ To most men, their mothers are their barometers, especially in relationships - they depend on her first impressions of the women they become serious about. If you have never been invited to meet the family, and especially his mom, pack your bags and catch the first bus away from him. He's just not that serious about a long-term relationship with you.

Men who are ready to commit want to show her off to the family, he needs their approval whether he puts it into words or not.

4. He's saving for the big day ~ Yes, men still think it's important to be able to give you the keys to his castle and yes, this is a very important reason why he won't set a date until he feels that he has a big enough stash set aside. However, if you see that his financial sun is rising - he got a recent promotion, the old car was replaced by a newer model, and he's looking at new living quarters and he still isn't ready to set a date, you are on the bottom of his priority list and he's delaying because marriage isn't a short-term goal.

In this case, come right out and ask the question, "What about us?" If he doesn't assure you that you part of "us." Don't waste your time, honey.

5. He has made elaborate holiday plans ~ But you weren't invited to accompany him on his holiday ski trip. He is keeping quiet about his itinerary but has mentioned that his best friend Rob is going and a few others that you haven't met yet. It's been about a year and you thought you were a couple, he spends a lot of time over at your place, he mentioned that getting married is something he wants to do in the future and sure, a couple of kids would be great. It just seems that he lives a large part of his life without you - his job requires him to travel but he never lets you know too far in advance.

This might not be the guy you can count on for the 'til death do us part-phase of your life. During the holidays, get out of the house and start meeting new people. Who knows, you might meet Mr. Right when you least expect to find him.