Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Is Forcing a Guy to Marry You a Good Idea? Commitment Advice for Women



Is forcing a guy to marry you a good idea or not? If you're a woman who has been waiting a long time for a commitment you may just think it's a great idea. It's tiresome, isn't it? Putting in so much emotional energy and time into a relationship and then realizing that your man isn't the commitment type? It's frustrating to imagine an endless future of dating and having to introduce him as your boyfriend when you two have long passed your teenage years. It doesn't have to be that way. Granted, forcing a man to marry you isn't the right approach to take but there certainly is a way to get him to want to marry you and it's all about subtle persuasion.

The biggest problem with forcing a guy to marry you is that he'll put up major resistance. Immediately he'll recognize what you're trying to accomplish and his need to protect himself will overtake everything else. If he feels you're actively pushing for a commitment, and he's not completely comfortable with the timing, he'll fight you tooth and nail on it. You'll become increasingly frustrated as he digs in his heels deeper and deeper. You'll end up even farther away from a commitment than you ever were before.

One major reason why some men refuse to commit is they just don't see the logic in it. This is usually the case with a couple who live together and share every aspect of their lives. It's the same for a couple that spends a lot of time at each other's homes. They essentially are sharing their lives as any married couple would except there's no formal commitment, there hasn't been any exchanging of rings and for all intent and purposes they're still a dating couple. To the man in this relationship he's got everything he wants without the added hassle of having to make a serious commitment. To the woman in the relationship she doesn't have the one thing she truly wants which is to call the man she adores her husband.

Absolutely nothing will change if things continue as they are now regardless of how much you pressure him into a commitment. He'll hold strong because his life is ideal the way it is. That's why you need to rock the boat but in a very sweet way. You have to temper what you feel and try not to devote yourself completely to him. Pull back a bit and just focus more of your time and energy on yourself as opposed to him. Let him sense that you're becoming more emotionally independent of him. If he feels that, he'll start to wonder if there's a life for you beyond the relationship you two share and it will make him start to consider the idea of getting more serious so he doesn't risk losing you.



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