Making Your Relationship Last

Making your relationship last can be done, you will have your good times and bad times, but if you both want this to work then it will. The thing is, that both of you have to want it to work, and be committed to making it work, it won't happen if there is just one of you making all the running, you are in this together, for better or for worse.

The problem is, what happens if your partner is not yet ready to commit to the long-term? It could be the case that your partner loves you dearly, but that they still need to work through and understand their feelings for you. What would you do in that situation? If you really love them you need to accept the stage that they are at, and concentrate on building the best relationship that you can. If you want to make your relationship last then you have to work together, you cannot have just one of you deciding what happens, you have to be together because both of you want to be together.

In order for your relationship to stand a chance, you need some common ground between you, something that already gives you a connection. You could come from the same neighbourhood, you could share similar hobbies or interests, or whatever, but if you have something in common with your partner then you have a far greater chance of being able to develop your relationship. Opposites do attract, but if you share nothing with your partner then your relationship has less chance of surviving.

One way of moving forward through the years is to have major relationship goals. For example you want to go on vacation to..., you want to buy a house in a certain neighbourhood, or it could be when you want to have children. If you have joint goals that you have to work together to achieve then it will bring your closer together.

Do you each and every day let your partner know that you love them, know that you care. They are not mind readers, and no matter what you think, unless you tell them they will never know. Give them a hug, a kiss, or why not go wild and do both, and tell them that you love them. It will mean a lot to them, as you will realise when they do it to you..

The two of you are the both important parts of your relationship, without you it does not exist. You will still be your parents children but as a family unit you have to put each other first. Your relationship has to go forward based on what the two of you want, and not what anyone from outside your relationship wants.

You are two (obviously) very different individuals with different histories, backgrounds, wants and needs. At some point your wants and needs are going to clash and then you could have problems. Arguments are a natural part of a healthy relationship, but how you go forward depends on how you can deal with your arguments.

You have no chance of making your relationship last if you cannot fight fair. At various points in your relationship you are going to have disagreements and arguments. No matter how perfect the relationship, they will argue at some point. If anything, it would be unhealthy of you not to argue. Arguing can help to clear the air and highlight issues that need dealing with. If you shout and scream at each other, if you play the blame game, or if you are just looking to score points of your partner then you achieve nothing, your issues remain unresolved, resentment builds and it could destroy your relationship. You need to be calm and rational when you talk things through, you need to be able to focus on your issues and not get distracted, and you need to be able to reach a solution that you are both happy with. Use arguments as a way to identify problems and in working through them to come closer together.

When you were single, all of your decisions were based around what was best for you, this won't work if you hope to make your relationship last. What is a normal way of life for someone single becomes selfishness when you are a couple. This doesn't mean that what you want is of no account, you just have to take your partner into account when making decisions.

Given that you be together for a long time to come, there are two important things that you need to do to help in making your relationship last. You've got to enjoy your time together, have fun, open up the romantic and have some fun. Which is fine, so long as you are friends. Doing things that you both enjoy, finding new experiences, building up a store of shared memories and experiences will bring you closer together. You have to spend quality time together, or where's the point. Not spending time together can make your relationship tired and stale, because you have nothing to look forward to. You are never to old to date, you are never to old to have fun, you are never to live life.

Being each others best friend will see you through the good times and the bad. You can trust your best friend, you can open yourself up to them, and whatever troubles your friendship faces you know that your friendship will always remain intact.

You need to share each others lives. You need to know your partners wants and needs, their likes and dislikes, you need to know when they need your help and support. You have to be strong enough to face all the challenges that life throws at you and come through them, together. This all comes about through communication. Without communication you have nothing. Plain simple talking together and sharing yourself with your partner binds the both of you together, it helps you to deal with problems and to plan for the future, it also gives you a chance to catch up on all the gossip. If you never really talk in your relationship, how boring and existence would that be?

Making your relationship last can be achieved by working together as a partnership. You have to be with each other because you want to be, and you can only take your relationship forward because it is something that you both want. You have to want to do things for your partner to make them happy, simple things that come from the heart are best because they come straight from you, and as such they mean something. You both have to work for the good of the relationship and when problems occur you need to deal with them as adults, and in a way that makes you both happy. Be the very best of friends, show your partner that you care for them, strive to create the very best relationship that you can, make the most out of your time together, have fun, and if you do all those things then you will make your relationship last.