What to Do If She's Not Ready to Commit

You've found this great girl, she is all that you can think about, you can talk for hours on something and nothing, and you have great times together, life is good. The comes the fateful day when you are told that, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now." You become confused, if everything was going so well, why this? Was it something you did, there something wrong with you? You need to know how to move forward, so what to do if she's not ready to commit?

The first thing is, don't take it personally! Just because she's not ready to commit it does not mean that there is anything wrong with you, it just means that you're not right for her. For a relationship to work there has to be compatibility, if it's not there then the best thing that can happen is finishing the relationship.

It takes time and effort to build a relationship. You don't have to be with each other 24/7, in fact it's good to have a life away from the relationship, but what happens if she is spending most of her time with her girlfriends? If she put her friends before you, she is saying quite clearly that you are not that important, that you don't mean that much to her. If you are only there as a hobby, is it worth staying with her?

If she's not ready to commit, it could be the case that the pace of the relationship has been moving to quickly for her. You might just have worked through all your emotions and feelings for her before she has for you. In order to move forward,, you have to move forward together. Talk to her about how you feel and find out how she feels, give her the time that she needs to understand her feelings about you. Whatever you do, don't try push her into a decision, it can only push her away from you, she has to want to commit to you because she wants to.

Has she been through some bad relationships. She could have been unfortunate in he choice of partners in that non of them were compatible. If commit yourself emotionally to someone and you get repeatedly knocked back then you can be nervous of committing just in case it happens yet again. Is she dating to soon after he last break up, she might still have issues to work through. If she still has issues from a previous relationship she needs to deal with them before committing to you, if they are not dealt with they could fester and poison your relationship. If you really care for her then talk to her about what has happened and offer her your support.

You girl might not be ready to commit because she is concentrating on her career, if that is the case then she won't have the time to commit fully to the relationship. If you love her, this is leaves you with a decision to make. Do you walk away from her and hope that you find someone else that you can love, or do you give her the support and love that she needs. If you stay together then there is no reason why everything won't work out for you, it just might take a while before she has some more time to devote to you.

Trust is the foundation of all relationship, after all, if you can't trust someone would you really want a relationship with them? When you meet someone, unless you have existing trust issues, you give your trust freely to them. Trust however is a very fragile thing, and if it is eroded on a regular basis then it can disappear never to return. Is she late for dates on a regular basis, and when she's running late does she let you know what's happening? Does she return your calls, emails and texts? Is this someone who is serious about you or is she just using you for a bit of fun? Ignoring you like this not only shows a lack of respect but quite clearly screams out that you are not a priority for her. It could be worth talking to her about it, but I think the end result will still be the same, and you'll find yourself walking away from her.

What to do if she's not ready to commit? Talk to her about it! There might be very good reasons as to why she is not ready, in which case give her the time that she needs. It could be that you are just not compatible with each other, if that's the case then that's life, it's not worth pursuing a relationship when you are not compatible with each other as that will only lead to break up and heartache down the line. Just as there are guys that like to play the field, there are also girls that like to do the same, if your girl is one of these then stop wasting your time and find someone you can build a real relationship with. If your relationship is going to work then both of you have to move together at the same time, if you have to wait a bit longer then so be it, if you are made for each other, then it will be worth the wait.