Your Guy's Commitment Issues: Why Guys Are Afraid Of Commitment

So you spend night after night thinking about him. You're plotting on how to get this boy to commit to you like it's some complex chess game. But every time you even give him the "I want commitment look..." he gets a little pale and starts fidgeting. Why are guys so petrified of commitment? In the mean time, you hang around in non relationship limbo, confused and frustrated because you don't know what to do next....It's not like you asked him to take a bullet or anything! (There's no hardcore scientific study on this or anything, but I'm pretty darn sure that the average guy is less afraid of getting drafted to go to war, than committing to one girl.) LOL:-) Well there are several reasons why guys are so scared of commitment and they may not be for the reasons you might think. First of all, its probably not because he doesn't like you. If the circumstances are right, he'd probably commit to you and be very happy about it. So what's going on? Commitment to a guy means something very different to commitment to a girl. Ten thousand years ago, we lived in tribes as cave people. When a man committed to a woman, this was the absolute best news in the world to her. Why? Because she had guaranteed protection from bad people, and if she got pregnant, she had someone to take care of her while she was in such a vulnerable state. To a cave man however, commitment meant that he had to be stronger, hunt more, protect more. He suddenly had to take his priorities more seriously. He had to be more responsible. Guys associate commitment with more responsibility. A guy's fear of commitment is really his fear that he is not enough, that he will not be strong enough to fulfill his responsibilities as a man. Do yourself a favor, and read that last line again... Be steady with the commitment process, but don't overwhelm your boy. It's like trying to help someone overcome any fear. You don't want to overload him. If he had a fear of public speaking, you wouldn't make him host the Grammy's... that might be a little much... Rather than make him feel the pressure, just focus on him really enjoying the passion with you. Read more articles here on how to make him feel irresistibly attracted to you. Have fun with him, and set the situation up where he starts committing to you naturally, without making him feel to uncomfortable. Here are some things you can do that will make him feel committed to you without him noticing:

• Go away together. It doesn't really matter where. Take the Friday off class, and go spend three days with him in a hotel, or on a trip. After the weekend is done you will feel more bonded.


• Attend "couples events" with him. If you get him to dress up in a suit with you, and walk around with you as your date in front of other people, he will make the connection in his mind that you are a good fit together.


• Sit down with him, tell him all the reasons you love being with him and get him to tell you all the reasons he loves being with you


• Share some deep dark secrets with him, and then get him to do the same. When you do this, he will feel bonded with you on a really deep level.

Ok. You got this one. I want you to call him up right now, and start planning a mini get away with him. Try to make the trip at 2 days long. If not, make sure that you spend a very long day together. This trip does not need to be fancy, but it does need to be fun for both of you. Make sure you set it up so that the two of you spend the whole time together so you can really grow closer. During the trip, make sure you get a few good pictures of the two of you together having lots of fun. As a bonus, after your trip, stay away from him for three days so that he can reflect and start to miss you.