Commitment Phobia - How To Know If Your Guy Has That And How To Deal With It

Does your guy have commitment phobia? Can't tell if he has that or not? If he does seem to have it, do you want to know how to deal with it? You've been dating that guy for several months now and he doesn't seem to be interested in changing his Facebook relationship status from single to in a relationship. Somehow, you are bothered with it. You have been dating for so long now and he still hasn't said that "L" word. You might wonder as to why he hasn't said it. You might wonder if there is something wrong with you or not. Well, there's nothing wrong with you. Your guy has this something called commitment phobia.

Now, you have that puzzled look. Exactly what is commitment phobia? It is that fear that some guys have. They are afraid to commit themselves to a long-term relationship. They would rather have relationships that are short and time-bound. They don't believe in ever after. They are the ones who are allergic to weddings and engagement parties. They dread the thought of being tied up to someone. So how will you know that he is a guy who fears commitments? Here are some of the signs.

Sign #1: He had several relationships in the past.

He said to you that he had been in a relationship with a lot of girls in the past and he still hasn't found that one certain girl. He feels that it is you. Those statements would have probably knocked you off of your feet. It is definitely cheesy. But when you decipher it, it means he hasn't been in a relationship that lasted for a long time. For him to realize that you are that person, get intimate with him and at the same time, play hard to get. He would love the challenge of winning your heart. Just make sure he says the "L" word first and not you.

Sign #2: All of his friends are already married.

He is the only surviving bachelor in his circle of friends. It is an obvious sign that he doesn't want to settle down and get married. Marriage is not in his vocabulary. You will also notice that his place is ultimately for bachelors only. There's not a hint that he made it suitable for kids. Here's what you should do. Don't bring him along to weddings and engagement parties. Attend those parties by yourself. You do have to inform him though that you are going there. Don't drag him there. Let him decide if he wants to go or not.

Sign #3: His parents are divorced.

The main reason why he doesn't believe in marriages and long term commitments is because his parents are divorced. He had a traumatic experience. He grew up having a broken family. It made him believe that a relationship is bound to end at sometime. The only remedy for this is that you invite him over during Thanksgiving or Christmas. He will see that there is happiness in your family.