Overcoming Commitment Issues In Men

Commitment issues in men are the main reasons why some of them still remain single even if they are already in the marrying age. They may declare their undying love to women, but are afraid of tying of knot. Most women, on the other hand, are eagerly yet patiently waiting for men to make their marriage proposals. But what if in the course of their relationship, the man still has not expressed his intent to marry her? Could he be reluctant to commit? Could he have commitment phobia?

It helps to understand that if a man takes commitment seriously, it is rational for him to be apprehensive. You are asking him to become responsible for your and your children's well being for the rest of his life, and to sacrifice his dreams and his happiness if necessary to do so. Every good man has some commitment issues. If he isn't being prudent, he may not be taking commitment seriously enough.

Here are some signs that your man has more than normal commitment issues:

* He never talks about marriage.

* Talking about marriage makes him uncomfortable. He keeps trying to change the subject.

* He was the one who broke up with his ex's.

* He limits the time he spends with you.

* He never tells you about his family.

* He hasn't introduced you to his family, and he doesn't talk about doing so.

* He can be romantic at a particular time but the next moment, you will be surprised with his sudden mood changes. He will try to initiate an argument.

If you see a number of these signs, be prepared to deal with commitment issues.

If your boyfriend is commitment-averse, you will have to deal with it. You could choose not to wait any longer, but end the relationship and move on with your life, but if you really love him and are willing to take the risk, you can help him rid himself of his reluctance to commit. It will be a challenge though.

A man with commitment issues is still capable of falling in love. He is just afraid of commitment. You can use his love for you to change his perception about being committed.

How? I'll tell you how it was with me. I was ideologically opposed to marriage. I believed that the individual should be supreme, and that marriage would suppress individuality, and hence marriage was wrong. One woman didn't give up on me, and I got married to her when I realized that I already was married in every way but by legal contract, and that it suited me.

You will need to set the pace in your relationship, since men are generally untrained in relationships, and in his case, it is made worse by his avoidance behavior.

After he has become emotionally bound to you, you can let him see how life would be without you. Do not always be available for him. Go away for a few days or a couple of weeks. Spend more time with your friends and less with him. Make him miss you and fear that he is losing you. When he realizes that he does not want to live without you, he will realize that commitment is better than isolation.

Dealing with commitment issues in men involves time, effort and determination combined with true love. He will be able to overcome his commitment issues when he realizes he is emotionally committed and it has made his life better.