Sunday, May 8, 2011

I Love You?



In relationships people often fall in love with people who are perfect, except. He would be perfect for you, if. I could really fall in love with her, but. So you think they can change or you think you can change that about them; right? You know over time, maybe they could be the perfect person for you. It is always the if and the but that add conditions to a situation.

There are some characteristics and personality traits that people were born with and they are a permanent part of who they are. Have you watched young children who just have to do it by themselves; if you say do not do that, they really have to do it; some will allow you to dress them, and some know exactly what they want to wear and how they want to look. As young children you see that some are patient and kind others impatient, some assertive, others timid. Some have the ability to flow and others just want their way. Some think they are the only children in the world, while others seem to know it is not just about them. You often hear parents say, she has always talked a lot, or he has being singing since he was a little boy.

When they grow up and start making friends and dating, people will want them to change. They will want the talkative one to be quiet, tell them they think they know everything. Someone will have problems with the easy going one because he does not get upset. Someone will want the shy one to be more assertive. They will wonder who they think they are that everything revolves around them. Someone will want them to change. While many things can be taught or learned, there are some people who just came out that way. They were born that way.

Some of the same traits that other people would like for a person to change; could be the same qualities that God wants to use. In Psalm 139:13 says "for You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb; I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works" (NKJV). If you are funny, you could have been called to be a comedian. If you are strong, you may have to stand for the weak.

Do not get me wrong, there are definitely things that everyone can improve on. And we should strive to improve. Talking a lot does not have to be a negative, if you watch what you say, how you say it and know when to be quiet. Being shy is not a problem; there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be out front, as long as you know when you need to assert yourself. The ability to flow keeps down drama, as long as you know when to say no. You should not try to be who someone else wants you to be. You should strive to be the best you. Yes, you can learn other things from people who could enhance who you are, but still be you.

Many times when people try to change themselves, they revert back to the same behavior. Some things only God can change. So if you are in a relationship with someone and you want them to change, start praying or start walking. They may have come out that way.

If you are contemplating a relationship and they would be perfect, except, if or but; think about it a little longer. Think about that relationship until you say I love them in spite of, I love them even though, I love them even if.



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