Will He Ever Marry Me?

I was talking with a smart young woman the other day who had this problem. She had been with the same guy in an exclusive relationship for almost 3 years and he never mentioned marriage. They seemed to have a great relationship. He had keys to her house, she had keys to his. She did things for him like cook him dinner, help him clean his apartment among a lot of other things. She described herself as nice, helpful and loving. She is a great girlfriend but she still asks the question, "Will he ever marry me?".

She is wanting more and he is thinking, well it's not broken, why fix it. The thing is, she is already giving him everything he would get if they were married. He has full access to her house, her life, everything. So often we give so much so soon and then there is nothing left for them to work for. We jump in so fast and next thing you know you are in a rut and he is not moving forward. You are left wondering, will he ever marry me.

Bottom line, men value what they work hardest for. Think of a car. If he has an old car that he got for a few hundred bucks, well anyone can drive it, he probably doesn't think much about it. Let's say though he worked hard, saved his money and bought this shiny new sports car. Do you think anyone else is going to drive it? No way. He will park it at the end of the parking lot and walk so no one parks next to him and dents it. He washes it every weekend and sometimes just stands back to admire it. Why? He values it, he had to work for it.

It's the same way with relationships really. A man has to see your value and if its just handed to him, he will take it for granted. It it took some work, he is going to want to make that woman his. When a man values his woman, he will want to make her happy, she will not be asking forever, will he ever marry me.