Trust In A Relationship Is More Than A Leap Of Faith - Do Not Screw It Up

Trust in a relationship is something you usually do not think about until there is a problem. Building trust is something that takes time; rebuilding trust, though, can seem like it takes an eternity.

No one wants to think they are being taken for a fool. Often if facts do not line up or you are caught doing something that your partner does not like you will be given a break - cut some slack.

A pattern of questionable or objectionable behavior, though, leads to some real problems when it comes to the existence of trust in a relationship.

Most of us have our own way of implementing a "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" policy in life, even if we have never heard that phrase before.

Once a person promises something to you and then totally blows it off you learn that their promise means nothing. It works the same way with trust in a relationship.

If you are trying to overcome cheating in a relationship, trust is the very component you need to rebuild. Once it happens, you will be suspect any time your whereabouts cannot be verified.

The best thing, of course, is to be a person of your word, a person of your vows if married, and honor your commitments.

In a relationship, wandering eyes can be a dead giveaway that you may not be a person to be trusted. Solution, look into the eyes of the man or woman you are with. If you do not enjoy doing this, why are you with them?

There can be problems on the dance floor if one of you is a dancer and the other is not. Sooner or later, the one who is will be having a bit too much fun dancing with someone else.

The solution there is to find some middle ground: either the non-dancer needs to learn to become one or the dancer may have to decide which he loves more, dancing or his mate.

You can avoid trouble by avoiding circumstances. Bars and dance floors are obvious; go there with the person you have a relationship with and be with THEM!

Work, however, poses a totally different sort of problem. If you find yourself attracted to someone at work that is putting your relationship in jeopardy, you may have to ask for a transfer or make a difficult choice.

The alternative is to keep you hormones in check and maybe even seek a friend at work to hold you accountable for the way you behave around this other person.

Avoid having to rebuild trust at all costs; put simply, do not betray a trust. If you have done so, hopefully in a small way only, then apologize to your partner or spouse promptly and sincerely.

But actions speak louder than words, make sure you can show them effort and improvement in the days, weeks and months ahead.