Bullet Proofing Your Relationship

No one can really say they did not know their relationship was headed for a breakup as there are typically certain signs and stages leading up to one. On rare occasions it can come as a surprise but rarely. If it comes as a shock then chances are you've become oblivious to changes in your partner.

By not being aware you did not notice lack of interaction or the sign that quality time between you ceased to exist. Relationships go through periods of each person becoming a bit neglectful of the other. Often without realizing it we begin spending more time with others or focusing on issues at the work place. Before you know it you are constantly bickering and not really sure what the fight is about. This resolves none of the underlying issues and before you know it both partners give up trying to solve anything if it is only going to result in an argument.

Are there trust issues involved? If so then you are dealing with a very serious issue. Consistently having to guess where the other is or suspecting they are not telling the truth of where they spend their time raises a red flag. Maybe you are suspicious by nature because of unresolved issues but if your partner has given you no reason to doubt them then you need to discontinue destructive behavior.

You need to find a way to trust them. How is your communication? Are you able to share both when you are happy or sad? Try to be intuitive to changes in feelings when it comes to your partner.

What hobbies do you have in common? Your partner should show they care or are interested in your pursuits by asking questions or volunteering to join you. Even if she does not share your passion for dirt biking or you could honestly care less about her passion for the latest makeup discoveries take time to listen and ask questions as it is a means of staying connected.

What if your partner has asked for time apart? Sometimes this step is leading to a breakup but it often means as well that your partner needs time to think through how they are feeling about the relationship. A trial separation does not have to lead to a breakup. Try to convince your partner to go with you for counseling while you are spending time apart. By doing this they will know that you are serious about wanting them in your life. Do not pressure them for a decision.

By doing so you will appear emotionally needy or manipulative. Rather base your argument on mutual love and respect to do what is best for a healthy relationship. By following these easy steps you can hopefully avoid the stages that lead to a final breakup.