How Do I Get a Guy To Commit When I'm Too Scared To Tell Him How I Feel?

Do you want to get a guy to commit to you but you feel too scared to tell him how you feel? Do you hide your feelings about wanting a committed relationship out of fear that he will reject you or won't feel the same way? If this is a pattern in your relationships, then you could be making a huge mistake that leads to your relationship deteriorating over time instead of bringing you closer together. To find out how to avoid this often fatal mistake and tell him that you want a commitment, read on.

Many women want commitment but they put off telling their guy about their hopes and dreams for a future with him. They feel that they have met the man they want to be with but they are frightened of scaring him off if they let him know this. Perhaps they are don't feel 100% secure in the relationship as he is not pursuing them to the extent that they would like. Men don't often broach this subject in a deep and meaningful way so perhaps the relationship feels as though it is lacking security.

Often, when this happens, a woman starts to become a little frustrated and this shows in her behaviour towards him. He senses her disappointment and the relationship changes slightly. He seems less committed rather than more, and his behaviour starts to confuse her and serves to frustrate her even more. This tends to spark a downward spiral and then it happens. She does the worst thing possible. Having allowed her frustration to build up to breaking point, she loses her cool with him and bombards him with a tirade of pent-up emotion and frustration.

This is a huge mistake and it does not work if you want to get a guy to commit. Do not allow yourself to get to this point in a relationship. You certainly can and should share your feelings with a man, although you should not do it too early on after you have met. Make sure you get to know him properly first. You must get over this feeling of "I'm too scared to tell him how I feel".

And, yes, you do run the risk of scaring him away but if your desire for closeness and security is important to you, then sooner or later you are going to have to be vulnerable and share your dreams for the future.

The crucial thing when you want to get a guy to commit is how you communicate what is important to you.

It is better if you bring up this subject when your relationship is in a good place. You can get to this place by regularly letting him know how much you enjoy his company and how much you appreciate the things he does for you.

Be confident in the fact that you have a right to feel how you feel and to communicate this in your relationship. However, you must also realise that he has a right to not want the same as you and you risk finding this out when you bring the topic up. However, I'm sure you don't want to waste years in a relationship with a guy who is never going to fully commit to you.

Communicate positively, directly and lovingly at a time when you feel close. Tell him how much he means to you and then simply tell him how it is for you and how important this is for you. Don't be too scared to tell him how you feel. And don't be tempted to try to persuade him how he should feel. That is a matter for him.

If you want to get a guy to commit, always let him know that you realise that he has choices in the matter and his choices are just as important to you. After all, you really wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want the same as you do for the future, would you?

Now that you've said your piece, simply drop the subject and give it some time to sink in. Don't let a withdrawal response unbalance you. And don't keep bringing the subject up constantly. If your relationship is good and you get the communication right, he won't be anxious to leave. You will have planted a seed and you can hope it bears fruit in the future.