Can I Persuade My Boyfriend to Marry Me? Tips to Get Him to Want to Commit

Can I persuade my boyfriend to marry me? Any woman asking that question is obviously in a relationship that isn't headed in the direction she wants. If that woman is you, it's understandable why you'd be feeling frustrated and confused. Meeting a man, falling in love with him and coming to the realization that he's your future life partner is all very magical. It's hard though if he seems to be on a different wavelength than you are. Giving up and just walking away in pursuit of someone who sees the value in marrying you isn't possible so you need to find a way to change your current situation. You can do that. You can persuade your boyfriend to crave a commitment as strongly as you do.

There are obviously many reasons why men don't want to marry. They range from being fearful of having to cut ties with their friends to being hesitant because they were the product of a divorced family. Regardless of what the reasoning is there is a solution to move a man past that resistance. It begins with understanding that if you handle this situation incorrectly it will very quickly turn into a tug-o-war. You'll push for a commitment, and he'll pull back. To him it will become a challenge and he'll dig his heels in on his position. You don't want that to happen so don't ever push again. There are much better ways.

Typically what happens in any relationship is the couple settles into a routine of comfort. Perhaps they live together once they decide they love each other or if that's not the case, they spend every free moment together. Essentially, even though there is no commitment or ring, they are living their lives as if they were married already. If you can see this happening in your relationship, it's part of the problem. You have to take control and pull back a bit to show your boyfriend that unless a true and real commitment is made, you're not going to continue to act like his wife.

Don't be cruel about this and there's absolutely no reason to make a big announcement regarding your intentions. If you tell your boyfriend that you'll be pulling away from him emotionally because you want a commitment, he's not going to react at all. You have to be smarter than that. Instead, just stop being as attentive as you've been and become increasingly less available. If he sees that you're beginning to live your life more on your own, he'll question his position on commitment. The hint of you moving on and starting a life without him may just be what it takes to change his mind.