Saturday, April 30, 2011

Should You Tell Him You Want to Get Married? How to Get The Man You Love to Commit



You love your guy. You have visions of wedding dresses and a tropical honeymoon dancing in your head. You want to be his wife and you want to live the rest of your life by his side. Sounds like a dream come true, doesn't it? It certainly does save for one problem. He never talks about the future. You have yet to hear him mention the idea of marriage. You're growing more and more concerned that he sees you as a right now type of love rather than his future wife. Should you tell him you want to get married or is it better to wait until he inevitably pops the question? How you handle this subject can make or break your future with the man you love.

The quick answer to the question should you tell him you want to get married is yes. It's something you should mention to him once. It should be in passing when you two are talking about the future. It shouldn't be a conversation starter or something you dwell on continuously. You just want to make it clear in a very appropriate conversation that the idea of being married to him is something you really desire. Some men just can't read between the lines of what their girlfriend tells them so they never pick up on the subtle clues that she wants to get married. That's why mentioning it once puts the idea out there for him.

If you've already done this to no avail you have to take your approach to an entirely new level. Some women feel that the best way to get a man to want to marry them is to make him jealous or threaten him with an ultimatum. Neither of these will work for a very good reason. Men don't take well to being pushed. If they want something, they'll get it. They never want to be pushed into wanting something. That's why you're going to make him want it and also make him think it's completely his idea.

Continue to tell your man that you love him and be as affectionate as you've always been. This will allow him to see that you do care deeply for him and it will ensure he knows that you'd definitely say yes if he popped the question. The thing you're going to change though is your accessibility. If you've always been right there for him every time he wants or needs to see you, change that now. If a man knows that you're his and you're willing to wait forever to be his wife, he'll make you wait. He'll see no reason not to since most men aren't tripping over themselves to run down the altar towards wedded bliss. If you pull back just a hair and give him the sense that you have your own sense of freedom, he'll feel that slight distance and it will make him react strongly. The threat of losing something always awakens a man's realization of what he has and needs in his life.



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