Is It Proper To Kiss When In Courtship?

This question is on the lips of all young single adults that have been counseled or coached to avoid any form of intimacies while dating. If we cannot kiss while dating, the question now is if we are in courtship which is a deeper relationship, should we not, at least kiss? One can on a cursory note simply say, it is not appropriate to kiss while in a courtship. However, it would be so simplistic as to leave the inquiring young man or woman confused or even in defiance. After all, kissing is a way of showing affection and the courtship stage in a relationship involves the deepening of connectedness and affection.

Are there cogent reasons why kissing should not be a part of the courtship stage in a relationship? To kiss is to touch somebody or something with the lips gently or passionately. The passionate angle to kissing is an ouster clause for kissing from the courtship stage of a relationship. Such passionate expressions are only allowed in legal and lawful marriage relationship. Passionate kissing is an intimate sexual expression.

Here are some reasons why it is inappropriate to kiss when in courtship"

� Courtship is not marriage - One of the challenges we face on this issue is to pretend that we can get away with some acts because we think we are almost there. Courtship is not marriage. It would never be. Courtship can be called off without much pain. Moreover, kissing as passionate and intimate act is reserved for married couples.

� Passionate kissing and the fire it ignites are usually uncontrollable - We usually start with a feeling that we can kiss passionately and still avoid penetration sexual intercourse. Experience has, however, shown that when you start kissing, all guards are lost, control is loosened and all caution flies out through the window. If you manage to escape degenerating into full-scale penetration sex on the first day, you would rarely miss full sexual intercourse the next day. There is no doubt that there are many out there with the experience, mostly regrettable one, to prove the point that is being made here. Many girls would recall when the boys would ask for only one kiss and they have ended up in penetration sex where they have lost their virtue and felt used and dumped.

� Passionate kissing outside marriage is immorality - Many of us feel that penetration sex is the only instance when morality has been compromised. Let it be known that there is none morally pure who is involved in passionate kissing in their relationship outside legal and lawful marriage. If you doubt this statement, a search of the conscience would tell you that it is not right. What we have is a bunch of people who are struggling to put down a conscience that is telling them that they are going or have gone overboard.

� Even light kissing is unsafe - Those who argue that given the fact that kissing is a form of greeting would ask if they could not even give light kissing to their courtship partner. There is a rule of the thumb that states that it is better to ere on the side of caution. This is the counsel that is suitable here. You might aim for light kissing. However, the scents of the male and female body during those moments always ask for more than you wish to offer. Your only security is usually to not start what you may not be able to finish safely.