How Long Should I Wait for a Proposal? Dealing With a Man Who Won't Commit

How long should I wait for a proposal? When you first fell in love with your man did you ever imagine that you'd still be waiting for him to commit to you at this point in the relationship? Of course you didn't. You likely thought that by now you two would be blissfully settled into married life and the biggest challenge you'd face would be which program to watch on television in the evening. That's not the path your life has traveled though. You feel as though you're stuck in relationship limbo and you're beginning to wonder if the commitment you want is ever going to arrive.

Answering the question of how long is too long to wait for a proposal is really determined by the couple in question. If you two have been together for years and he's still holding back on asking you to marry him, consider how frequently you've expressed your desire to be his wife. If it's been an ongoing topic of discussion for more than a year, it probably has been too long.

Some couples don't ever bring up the subject of marriage because neither feels it's appropriate at the time. If this is the case in your own relationship you need to consider that your guy may be enjoying the relationship for what it is and doesn't feel compelled to take things to the next level because you've never expressed an interest in anything more. Many couples these days are opting for living together arrangements over traditional marriages and your boyfriend may believe that's what you want based on your silence on the subject. If you want a surprise proposal and that's what you've been waiting for, it's important to recognize the fact that he may not have the insight to know what you want unless you express it.

Sadly, some men just don't propose because they're enjoying the relationship just the way it is. If you've essentially given him yourself without the promise of a life time commitment, he may start taking you for granted. He knows that you're completely devoted to him and he suspects that won't change whether you get the wedding and commitment you want or not. We dig that hole for ourselves sometimes when we make it abundantly clear to our guy that we're his no matter what. If you've done this you may find that you're waiting endlessly for a proposal that may never arrive. That's because he sees it as an unnecessary step he doesn't need to take.