How to Trust That He Is Ready to Commit

How long have you been together now? Long enough to really get to know each other? Long enough for the honeymoon period to have moved on? If you've been together a year or more, then you will have got to really know your partner. You're happy with him, you are convinced that he's the one for you, you're ready to take your relationship to the next stage, but you don't know how to trust that he's ready to commit, and you do not want to push him away from you by pushing the issue.

You might be concerned that he doesn't appear to see things as you do, but you should not be. This is a bit of a sweeping generalisation, but on the whole, guys are terrible at showing their feelings. Whilst committing to something a lot deeper is a big step for both of you, guys can feel threatened, they can feel trapped in a relationship, so it can take them time to realise that this is what they really want.

If you want to trust that he is ready to commit then you have to let him come to that decision for himself.

Are you ready to commit? Is he the man for you? Do you have things in common, are you comfortable with him, do you communicate with each other and does he listen to what you have to say? Do you have realistic expectations for your relationship? Or do you have a dream of the relationship that you want, and everything has to fit into that dream, whether they want to or not? And most important of all, is your partner you best friend? You could be together for decades, so if you don't like your partner, are unable to confide in them or go to them for help, then you will have a grim time together.

It takes two to make a relationship. Both of you are equal partners in the relationship. Both of you have to determine how the relationship moves forward.

Do not try to control him. Do not try to control the direction of the relationship. Do not try to convince him that what he wants is to commit to you. If you do persuade him that committing to you is what he wants to do, then can you ever be certain that he is with you because he wants to be with you? If you want to trust that he ready to commit, then you have to let him come to you, that way you will know that what you have together is real.

It would be great if he could come up with the idea himself, but that could take time, so talk to him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you would like to take your relationship to the next level. Don't demand the same of him, don't give him an ultimatum that he commits or you'll leave him. No-one can freely commit to something if they have been coerced, and nor should they try. If someone is going to take such a major step in their lives, they have to be convinced in their own mind that it is the right thing for them to do, and that they want to do it.

You have to be able to listen to him, and this can be a difficult thing if he is saying things that you do not want to hear. What happens if he is not ready to commit, will you listen to what he says, or will you push on regardless in trying to get him to commit. Just because he is not ready to commit at this precise moment in time, it does not mean that he will not commit in the future. Talk to him about it. Are there specific reasons why he won't commit, or is he just not ready to do so. If there are issues, then talk them through and see if they can be resolved.

If he is not ready to commit but still wants to be with you, then work at building your friendship and your bond. The happier that you are together, the more at ease that your are together, the more likely it is that he will come around to the idea of taking your relationship to a deeper level.

So, how to trust he is ready to commit? If he comes to you and tells you then you know that he is ready, it shows that he has thought things through and believes that you are the woman for him. I can understand that it can be a difficult subject to broach, after all, you don't want to have him running for the hills at the mere mention of the C word. A lot of it is down to your reading of the situation. Depending on what level of commitment you are looking for, it could be best to wait until you really know him, and he has had a chance to get to know you. If you are comfortable with each other, if you enjoy being with each other, and if you are each others best friends then you should be able to talk to him about it. If you are going to be partners in life then you need to be able to share your lives, you have to be able to share decisions together. Where better a place to start than talking about your commitment to the relationship and each other.