Should You Tell Him You Want to Get Married? How to Get The Man You Love to Commit

You love your guy. You have visions of wedding dresses and a tropical honeymoon dancing in your head. You want to be his wife and you want to live the rest of your life by his side. Sounds like a dream come true, doesn't it? It certainly does save for one problem. He never talks about the future. You have yet to hear him mention the idea of marriage. You're growing more and more concerned that he sees you as a right now type of love rather than his future wife. Should you tell him you want to get married or is it better to wait until he inevitably pops the question? How you handle this subject can make or break your future with the man you love.The quick answer to the question should you tell him you want to get married is yes. It's something you should mention to him once. It should be...

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How to Feel Love From Your Mate

We all want to receive more love and be willing to give more love! How do we go about giving love more deeply and fully? Should we give gifts of jewelry? How about providing more romance? Or would there be more compliments? Spend more time with our partner or send flowers ( men enjoy getting flowers too). Be more seductive, wear alluring clothes?Well sure, we could provide all of the above, but to feel loved and appreciated we would have to consider the five C's: consideration, co-operation/confirmation, cherishing, caring, and confiding.These five behaviors, when used together, open us up to feeling safe, secure, loved, appreciated, and valued in our relationships:Consideration. Concern. This is about paying attention to what someone is doing, how they're doing and feeling, the tone of...

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The Difference Between "Being in Love" and Truly Loving Someone

Let's say you are in relationship with two people and you have decided it's time to make a decision to be committed to just one of them, how would you go about doing that? In some regards, it's a great place to be - but it's getting complicated and you know the time is right for a decision to be reached.You feel that you love both, equally, but also know there are basically some differences - you have to look at which one you're "in love with" and which one you "adore and truly love" and can't live without - you want to make a life with one - knowing you can't have your cake and eat it, too, over a lifetime.Considering the two people you are involved with - what expectations do you have for your future life? Which of the two people comes closest to meeting your expectations over time?Under...

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The Long Term Relationship - What Really Matters

In younger days, everything was equally urgent and all things were critical. Was she adorned in the latest fashions? Did he have the hottest car? Were they vacationing at the fanciest locales? Missing one step would devastate an entire month's image.Something unreachable, invisible, just out of grasp, was always required to complete their happiness, leaving an unfilled void at all times. Someday, they might find "It" and then, suddenly, like the sun breaking through a stormy sky, everything would be perfect. Until then, additions kept coming, agendas overflowed, and dollars kept draining. Constantly striving for perfection, most times they overlooked what was good.Their schedule was no longer their own. Fighting traffic for hours in late model autos serving as communication central, entertainment...

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"Soul Mates": Myth or Reality?

I recently asked several people if they believe that soul mates are real or mythical. I was surprised to find that the majority were convinced that soul mates are real. Of course, without a precise definition, it is difficult to know what people consider to be a "soul mate." One definition I found in Wikipedia is that, "a soul mate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility." Unfortunately, this definition may qualify quite a few people throughout our life as soul mates. The notion I carry, and I assume many of you do as well, is that a soul mate is a unique person who is mysteriously designated for me, fulfilling my life and making it complete. With this definition in mind, I ask you to consider my...

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Variety Is the Spice of Life

Variety is the spice of life, right? If that's really true, then the way we approach romantic relationships pretty much dooms them to failure from the start. I've been talking with a number of people lately about how silly it is to ask a person to choose one sex partner for the rest of their lives, or to choose one gender to be sexually attracted to. Who says we have to choose? The world wasn't black and white the last time I checked, and I'm a big fan of all shades of gray.For those of you who've read my stuff before, you might remember that I'm not a fan of monogamy. You might also remember that I've been in a monogamous relationship for nearly twenty five years. The way that my partner and I have consciously agreed to manage the chasm between my desires and my reality is two fold.One...

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Commitment to Marriage

If two people decided to get married, it is a decision that needs to be taken seriously and must be well thought. You don't just decide it right away and run to the nearest chapel to do it. Marriage is something that needs to put a lot of effort to work and it is a big responsibility that you have to decide. Remember that when you marry someone, you have a full commitment to them.Marriage is not as easy as it looks though. At first both of you are happy and living in a life of bliss in the first few months of you marriage. Afterwards, when real life hits you things starts to crumble. When bills starts piling up, the two of you start having kids and then problems rises, it seems like marriage is not as happy as it sounds. This is where your marriage commitment is being tested. This is what...

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Spurring Change This Christmas Through Donation

I get so emotional reading stories on how a student fails to get an education because his family lacks money then some stranger accidentally meets him and gives a helping hand. Or when a teacher was spending $100 for her class just to help her students who lack resources to buy their books-- out of her own pocket! Or how about a poor kid's mom crying for help on national TV because she needed funding for her son's chemo therapy to cure his cancer? It may sound cheesy but reality is reality. And we cannot just ignore it all the time when it comes knocking on our door.That is why beginning this Christmas, me and my family will be moving away from the commercialization of the holidays, instead give donations to worthy causes instead of the usual exchanging of gifts amongst ourselves. This...

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Sincerity and Power in Relating - Who Is the Boss

I always surrendered control of all the family's finances to the women I have been married to or are married to now. Most people will call me reckless, stupid, foolish or insane but I disagree with that verdict. It is my responsibility to trust and it is the duty of the person I interact with to be trustworthy. To trust is our responsibility. If we trust we will always come out on top - not as a millionaire, or as a winner but always functional, in better control of ourselves and more experienced.I agree that married women, in general, will hide money from their spouses, especially when she has children. A woman just does not feel secure when she has no financial recourses to her name and for the future. Even when a wife is given 100% control of the finances she still insists on squirreling...

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My Boyfriend Is Not Committed to Me! Tips to Help Change This

Your boyfriend is not committed to you. You can feel it. Maybe he says you're wrong but there are just too many things that suggest that what you're feeling has merit. He never talks about the future, he doesn't introduce you as his girlfriend and he freezes up anytime anyone talks about a wedding or marriage. Deep down inside you know that the relationship isn't going in the direction you want it to but you don't know what to do to change it. You're worried that you're going to have to spend the next few years of your life waiting for him to see the treasure he has in you so he'll get more serious about you.Before you can change your boyfriend's desire to commit you need to figure out why he's holding back. There are a whole slew of reasons behind why some men are reluctant to commit....

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He Won't Marry Me! How to Get Him to Want to Commit to You Forever

Hearing yourself saying the words, "he won't marry me," is never easy. Those words are always said with a bit of embarrassment and confusion. It doesn't matter if you've been dating your guy for just a year or ten years, if you feel he's your lifetime partner and he won't marry you, it hurts. You question your own appeal and you start to wonder if you've been wasting your time with a man who will never see you as his wife. Before you jump to any life changing conclusions, it's important to understand what his motivations are for not marrying you. Once you have more insight into why he may be holding back, you can then change the course of your future and get that engagement ring you want.Each man has his own unique reasons for not marrying his girlfriend but in almost all cases there is...

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Making Your Relationship a Success Story

Every human being want to be happy but only few manages to achieve it. The main reason behind this situation is unhappiness in relationships. Relationships is the corner stone of your emotional state and if your relationship is in turmoil, you are not going to be emotionally stable. To ensure that there are no hiccups in a relationship, you need to follow certain guidelines.Be flexibleAlways remember that you need to make certain compromises when in relationships. This is only going to happen when you are flexible in your thinking. Rather than taking everything seriously, try to be fun and loving. Showing ego is not going to work in a relationship. Give space to your partner. When you are aware of your partner requirements, you will be able to handle things in a much better way. Your relationship...

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How To Take Things Slow In A New Relationship

The one thing many people do when they find their perfect match is to rush things. This seems to be more common for people that have been alone for some time and are just enthusiastic about having a romantic interest or for people that constantly feel as though they need a companion so that they are not alone.The first thing you will want to do is sit back and have a conversation with yourself about what it is exactly you expect from the relationship. Do you want a short-term relationship, a long-term relationship without getting married for several years or do you want the relationship to result in marriage? Whatever it is, you need to make a decision and if you haven't already discussed this subject with your new partner, you really should as soon as possible.Sex is the next subject...

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Her Love Is Your Reason To Survive

When the lightning struck you, you very well know from that moment that it was worth pursuing. It happened in blink of an eye but you captured the moment and the spark, you felt it all over your body. That was it, an invitation that you did not reject but instead open yourself to the opportunity being presented before you. You asked her name and you enjoyed your coffee that day. It was more than an ordinary day in the coffee shop!You were filled with excitement when you bid each other goodbye. Of course you expect that he will ask you again when you can have another cup of coffee together or just stroll along the park. You cannot stop yourself from thinking what to do when you see each other again and anticipating what other things you can do the next time you go out with him. This time...

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How to Get a Man to Move From Casual to Committed? Learn How to Finally Get Him to Commit to You

Very few women are okay with casual dating. Most of them believe that if a man doesn't commit, the there must be something wrong. If you want to snap out of casual dating and turn your relationship into something more long-lasting, here's how to make him commit:Let him behold your beauty.Men will always be admirers of physical beauty. This is, in fact, the very first aspect that made them attracted to any woman. So if you want him to commit to you, at least prove to him that you'd always look pretty for him.Have a mind that enthralls.Being beautiful is good but what's more admirable is for a woman to possess an intelligent mind. Let him know that you just don't have a pretty face but also a brain that would make many girls give up because you're obviously the best.Be confident and a lot...

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Knowing Who to Marry and If the Timing Is Right

Getting married is a big decision and should not be taken lightly. Many times knowing who to marry and making the right choice can become a drawn out situation. Is there any way you can really know who to marry and if the timing will ever be right?Sometimes when you have been in a relationship for a long time you start to take each other for granted. You are so in tune with each other that you don't have to ask questions, you just know the right thing to do and when to do it.Problems occur when you decide it is time to make a change in your relationship. This often happens if you are thinking about getting married after having been together for a number of years. The thought of marriage can make you look at your relationship differently and make you wonder if you are marrying the right...

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Fear Of Commitment - A Past Life Case Study

"But off course" you may say "all men are afraid of commitment and by the time I drag him to the alter I'll be 80...". So, first off, you can always get a new body and start fresh in your next incarnation, in case you won't marry by 80... secondly, usually there is a good reason when someone is terrified of commitment and it's usually buried a few centuries back, in a past LIFE.Helen had an interesting one: smart, charming, attractive, full of life 28 years old woman. Her loving man, of the past 3 years, doesn't want to get married. Her circle of friends is divided into two groups: Those who say "he'll ripen with time" and the other who says: "send him to hell and get a serious one".I asked her to relax her body, her breath and imagine a white light gradually filling up her body. She started...

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How to Make Him Marry You - Tips to Get Your Guy to Commit to You Forever

You want to know how to make him marry you. You consider yourself patient but when it comes to waiting for a marriage proposal, you're beginning to question whether or not it will ever arrive. You two have been together for awhile and you've made the assumption that marriage would be the next logical step. But he's yet to pop the question and he never really brings the subject up himself. Now you're starting to wonder if marriage is on your horizon at all. You want things to move to a more serious place so it's up to you to make that happen. If your man isn't falling over himself trying to get you to commit to him, you have to give him a subtle push or two in the right direction.When you are trying to understand how to make him marry you consider what is holding him back. Men have reservations...

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Is It Proper To Kiss When In Courtship?

This question is on the lips of all young single adults that have been counseled or coached to avoid any form of intimacies while dating. If we cannot kiss while dating, the question now is if we are in courtship which is a deeper relationship, should we not, at least kiss? One can on a cursory note simply say, it is not appropriate to kiss while in a courtship. However, it would be so simplistic as to leave the inquiring young man or woman confused or even in defiance. After all, kissing is a way of showing affection and the courtship stage in a relationship involves the deepening of connectedness and affection.Are there cogent reasons why kissing should not be a part of the courtship stage in a relationship? To kiss is to touch somebody or something with the lips gently or passionately....

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How to Make Him Ready for a Relationship - Ways to Get Him to Want to Commit

You want to make him ready for a relationship. You've met him, spent time with him and you can feel yourself falling for him. The only problem in your plan for a happily-ever-after with him is he says he's not ready for anything serious. He won't even commit to dating just you and it breaks your heart. You want him to be your everything and you want him to want that too. Are you destined to sit and wait for him to realize what a treasure you are or is there a way to speed up the process so he's tripping over himself wanting to commit to you? You can actually do several things to make any man open up to the idea of wanting to be your life partner so he'll devote himself to only you.In order to make him ready for a relationship you must recognize that pushing him on the issue is going to...

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Get Your Ex Back Who Left Because You Didn't Want to Commit to Them!

Partners who are in a relationship with commitment issues can face huge problems. If you want to get your ex back who left because you had problems with commitment, then you need to know how the thousands of other people overcome their issues with commitment. Its not impossible to get your ex back.Both men and women experience commitment issues and doubt when they hear those special words "I want to take our relationship to the next level." This most commonly means a marriage proposal is around the corner and when a partner with commitment issues knows this, they completely refuse to face the thought of it.In all honesty, this is most common with men. Women would be happy to accept a marriage proposal in a millisecond, whereas some men tend to hesitate at the thought of it. When he does...

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Signs That He Loves You

Let's face it ladies, in these days, we just can't take anymore crap from men. We have no time to play around and be fooled around with. We value our time and with that we need to know that the person we are with is really worth our time. All women need to know that they are being treated sincerely and faithfully, and I personally believe that women need to be treated as such.This is because when a woman loves she is not only giving love but her whole being as well. So, it's just fair that we, women should know if our partner is serious or not. Before I go on with the article, let me remind you, ladies, men are not like us.They talk less and they have difficulty expressing their emotions. Learn to respect the individuality of your mate before presuming anything. Now that I have that settled,...

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How to Get a Man Prepared for a Serious Relationship - Positive Steps to Make Your Man Commit

After having spent a lot of time together you feel that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level. But if your man isn't looking ready then you need to prepare him for a serious relationship. Here is how you can do that without disturbing your current relationship dynamics.Look at how close you are emotionally When you want to make a man feel ready for a serious relationship you have to look at your emotional quotient. Being emotionally close will give you a huge advantage as your man will feel comfortable being himself with you.Show him that you are the one he can trust To make a man see that you both should take your relationship to the next level you have to show him your dependable and trustworthy side. Don't depend on him for help always or ask him to bail you out...

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What to Do If You Are Wondering How to Get Your Boyfriend to Propose

First of all, I'm sorry you're even having to read this article. If you're searching for information about how to get your boyfriend to propose, my heart goes out to you. His inability to commit to your relationship surely brings painful feelings and it can even put you in an awkward situation. You might even be to the point where you've begun to wonder if staying in the relationship is right for you, or if moving on would be the best thing for both of you. But the good news is, if you're in this position, there is help. We can actually discover what it is that causing him to drag his feet and find answers to your questions. Just knowing what it is that's holding him back from committing will give you the ability to talk with him about and resolve the concerns that he is feeling.More good...

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Why Wouldn't He Propose to Me?

So, you are in a relationship with a man who won't propose to you after several years of being together. Your biological clock is ticking and you are concerned about your future with this man. You are wondering, where this relationship is going and sometimes even whether or not you should stay in it. If you can relate, this article may be for you.Several years ago I was in a relationship with a guy I thought I was in love with. Though he was far from being my ideal match spiritually, emotionally and intellectually, I went out of my way to make the relationship work. I lost myself in the game of trying to be the perfect woman for him. After a year and a half of being together I was frustrated, not only because he wouldn't propose to me at the time, I was starting to get really scared that...

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Signs He Will Never Propose - How to Know If Your Guy Is Marriage Material

You feel that you've been waiting forever for your guy to pop the question. If you two have been dating for some time it's only natural that you'd eventually expect an engagement ring and the title of his wife. How long is too long to wait though? If you've gone from expecting a wedding in your future to wondering whether or not it will ever happen, you've reached a point where you need to look at your relationship more honestly. There are some signs he will never propose that will help you clearly see whether or not he's even got marriage on his mind.One of the signs he will never propose is he dislikes going to anyone's wedding. If someone has no tolerance for something in particular, they want to distance themselves from that thing. In your boyfriend's case if he gets uncomfortable...

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Erotic Can Mean Erratic

Is marriage an impossible dream? Is it unrealistic to expect two people to live together happily for the rest of their life and find spiritual healing together?These days in England for example, couples, more often than not, live together for some time before even considering the possibility of marriage; a very different way of looking at things from say the middle of the twentieth century.What lies behind this change? Some would point to the availability of contraceptives that allow us to have a full sexual relationship for the time being without the long-term commitment of parenthood. Others would point to a less hypocritical society. We all know that many marriages these days end in divorce. It is asked, "Why pretend everything is perfect by getting married when it clearly isn't likely...

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The Trust Factor: How Can Faith and Reliance Lead to Abundant Living and True Wealth? - Part 2

Trust is a basic human need for survival and is a precious treasure of true wealth that many often seek, but seldom ever find. Trust is two sides of the same coin: FAITH and RELIANCE.We discovered this "gem of truth" in Part 1 of this 3 Part Series about Trust. In this article, we will consider this truth from a human perspective.When you closer examine the two sides of this "coin," you will discover and realize that having FAITH in some one's ability to nourish a healthy relationship and RELYING on their character for support are crucial key aspects to developing a trust-worthy partnership.So, what does faith in someone have to do with building trust?Faith in Someone and Their AbilitiesFirst, trusting someone, especially with your life, takes Faith! Without faith, you are doomed to live...

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The Trust Factor: How Can Faith and Reliance Lead to Abundant Living and True Wealth? Part 1

Trust is a precious treasure that has often been sought after from the mightiest of rulers and kings to the meekest of servants and subordinates. When it pertains to building trust in a relationship and abundant living, trust doesn't care about your ethnicity or race, your gender, educational and demographic will backgrounds, religion, or even the leadership activities you find yourself involved in.Trust is NEUTRAL.In the scope of historical events, people, and places, especially on today's Global Stage, trust is still the most sought after and needed treasure among the human race! More precious than gold and silver, once gained, trust is PRICELESS!Trust is true wealth that keeps on giving back, time after time. Trust allows people to develop Positive Relationships needed to survive present...

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The Trust Factor: How Can Faith and Reliance Lead to Abundant Living and True Wealth? Part 3

Trust is a precious coined treasure that includes the side of FAITH and the side of RELIANCE. As you discovered in Part 2, Faith in Humanity and Reliance on Honest Character are 2 crucial aspects needed to experience true wealth and an abundant, joy-filled life.From a human perspective, faith in some one's ability to develop a healthy relationship and relying on their integrity of character, this world will be a better place to live because you have chosen to do your part.In this article, you will discover True Wealth from a divine perspective. Because I am a Christian, from a biblical point of view and not from stereotypical opinion, I have chosen to detail WHY having a divine perspective to Faith and Reliance is key to developing the ultimate Trust...my trust in God.Trusting WholeheartedlyDeuteronomy...

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Couple's Agreement - Are You Clear About Your Relationship?

Entering into a relationship is usually fun and excitement mixed with lots of passion and the belief that 'this is it'. Rarely we look through the glasses of reality - that comes later, often followed by disappointment or disillusionment. Think about what you want in a relationship and communicate it before it is too late.Social conditioningCouples ask me: 'Aren't there rules that are obvious?' or 'This must be common sense!' The answer is no, there are no obvious rules and there is no common sense when it comes to relationships. All that you believe to be the rules you follow are because you took them on, consciously or as part of your upbringing. You have accepted your social conditioning, rebelled against it or transcended it and created your own - still, it is your own mix and there...

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