Thursday, May 5, 2011

Why You Need to Stop Being Pushy If He's Afraid of Commitment



There's a very good reason why you need to stop being pushy if he's afraid of commitment. You likely already know what it is. Pushing a man you adore into a serious relationship before he's ready for it is a recipe for disaster. It's understandable why you'd drop heavy hints continually. You love him and you know deep within your heart that the two of you are destined to be together. The problem is that if you constantly badger him, even in a very sweet way, about getting more serious, he'll bolt if he's not ready.

Men are afraid of commitment for a number of reasons. Some men came from broken homes and to them the idea of going through a divorce is so overwhelming that they can't imagine putting themselves into a position where it could happen. To these men, the idea of dating forever presents a safe choice. They don't even consider the idea of moving things along to a more exclusive state because that means that they could get hurt if the relationship ended.

Other men are fearful of commitment because they can only see the financial ramifications of getting more serious about a woman. They imagine that the relationship will move into marriage and their bank account won't be able to sustain the blow. If a man isn't financially stable on his own, he won't be willing to add a woman to the mix. In many instances, the wedding is soon followed by children and if a man doesn't feel great about his finances, he isn't going to want to commit because he can't see himself supporting an entire family.

Sadly, one of the other reasons some men are afraid of committing is much more personal. If he's not convinced that you're the woman for him, he's going to be wary about taking things to the next level. If this is indeed the case with your boyfriend, and you do push him into committing, you'll soon find yourself alone. A man in this mindset only needs one small excuse for ending the relationship if he's unsure of its potential in the future. If you pressure him into a commitment, you'll present him with that excuse and instead of wearing an engagement ring, you'll be nursing a broken heart.

It never pays to push a man who is afraid of commitment. If you do it, just be well aware that the consequences may be more difficult than dealing with his commitment issues.



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