Rebuilding Marriage - Understand Why It Is Difficult To Trust Your Spouse After An Emotional Affair

Rebuilding trust after an affair does not happen quickly or overnight. Learning to trust your spouse is a healing but difficult process that will involve good days and bad days. Trust will be an integral part of your marriage, but the both of you have to work on it.

Live With What You Have

Some people will never change, no matter what you do to them. You have to decide if you are willing to live with your spouse as he or she is. But be clear to them about your expectations. You can support your spouse through the worst periods of the marriage, but having them to commit emotional affair again is going to destroy the marriage and divorce may be the only option left to you.

No Easy Answers After Affair

Understand that even after an affair, there will be questions left unanswered and there are no easy answers from your spouse with regards to the affair. The best thing to do here is to accept that the affair has happened and you believe your spouse is sincere in making up to you and the marriage.

Without working hard in the marriage, there is no "happily ever after". Happy marriages can be achieve by taking tremendous effort, time, energy and commitment. The same can be said for rebuilding trust. You and your spouse can emerge stronger after the affair if the both of you are committed in rebuilding the marriage.

Talk To A Professional Counselor

Often this is the first thing you should do when your discover that your marriage is suffering from an affair. A marriage counselor can see things more clearly and objectively than the two of you. You may understand the reasons why your spouse commit the offense and your spouse might finally 'wakes up' after counseling.

The counselor might be able to spot any weakness in your existing marriage and would advice certain steps to work on it. The weakness in the marriage could be the catalyst for the affair to happen. The counseling sessions may not last for months or years and sometimes it only takes a few sessions to highlight the root cause of the affair. The counselor then can help you and your spouse to untangle emotional issues.

Remember that it takes two really committed person to make a marriage works. Earning trust after an affair is especially so. Take your time in this healing process to trust your spouse, even if it will take years to do so.