He Won't Settle Down With You - Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Refuses to Commit

You're crazy in love with a wonderful guy but there's one major problem you're dealing with. He won't settle down. Try as you might you can't get him to see the benefits in becoming exclusive. It hurts inside to know that while you have the mindset of being in a couple, your other half is still playing the field. Is there any way you can get him to change his mind so he wants to settle down just as much as you do? There actually are things you can do that will subtly persuade him to want a commitment with you just as much as you want one with him.

Before you can change his mind you have to determine why he won't settle down with you. Some men believe that if they commit to one woman too soon that they'll inevitably be making a mistake that will have repercussions that they'll feel forever. That's not to say that you're not the woman for him, but he may worry that if he jumps on the commitment bandwagon too soon that he'll be missing out on other important experiences. This typically is an attitude that younger men have. They see their entire lives before them and they imagine getting serious about a woman and then having to stay interested in her forever.

Another reason why some guys run in the opposite direction when the subject of commitment comes up is they feel they'll lose out on spending time with their friends. You'll notice this more in a relationship in which the man has a lot of single friends. He sees them going out and painting the town and he feels he's missing out. His attitude will likely shift once his friends start dating seriously as well.

If he's unsure about his financial future, settling down with you will be the last thing on his mind. There's a belief among many men that they need to be responsible, in a financial sense, for their future partner and any children they may have. This is especially true of men who grew up in an environment in which their mothers didn't work outside the home. If your guy is having trouble keeping up with his own rent on a month-to-month basis, settling down isn't on his list of things to do in the near future. He'll definitely be focused on earning a reasonable wage and building a solid base in savings before he makes the move towards a commitment.